I want to out myself to you all. Recently, I have been struggling with a pretty demonic internal voice. On the outside I carry myself as extremely positive + happy and someone that exudes confidence and general bad assery. On the inside, lately this is not so true, I recently faced a breakdown. Between financial woes and a very strong + persuasive internal voice which is screaming at me telling me I am not good enough, I don’t deserve abundance, I’ll never be fully accepted on and on and on. I snapped! I broke down completely to the point of tears.

In the midst of my break down, I decided to take a deep breath and reach out to my amazing support system of women. I unleashed everything that was going on in my mind in a rant filled e-mail. By coming clean and releasing my inner demons to my newly established tribe the tears, anxiety and fear began to melt away. A huge source of love + support began flowing into my inbox, Facebook and phone. I was in awe! My tribe loves me and supports me even at my weakest point.

I have come to learn that confidence is something that can be defined in numerous ways. I felt a new sense of confidence wash over me even as tears rolled down. I felt powerful and weak all at the same time. The ability to break down, face shit head on, and let it all out through tears is a powerful experience! Most importantly the COURAGE to step up and ask for help.

I am here to tell you that it is OK to feel weak, it is perfectly normal for even the most confident woman to experience extreme lows. While the textbook definition portrays confidence as “the state of being certain” I am in disbelief that this is the one and only way to define confidence. Confidence is all about having the courage to share + fully feel your feelings. To me confidence and courage go hand in hand. In order to become insanely happy and comfortable with ourselves we need to step back, breathe and release our most internal struggles. It is completely fine {in fact I encourage you 110%} to let it out through tears and then reach out and ask for help.

How can you reshape your thoughts around the word confident? No one is put on this Earth perfect – and that’s how it should be! We need to use our life struggles to connect as a powerful community. Our flaws and hardships is what make each of us special and will form a bond between us.